I dnt no wt t du i love him t bits bt im not happy?

ive bin with my partner 8 n alf years lived tgether for 5 n have two children i love him to bits bt we seem t want different things i wana b happy and i am happy with my lil family but he always pts us 2nd best never takes what i say seriously o listens t me if i say i would rather u nt do tht he will ignore me n du it anyway he always leaves t go out n get drunk wi his family n friends afta work and im sat at hm thinkin what the hell where is he ????? its jus lie afta lie when we have split up before he has begged t *** hm n promised he will change and listen t what i want more n put me n kids first but he never sticks t it he nos how feel i have explained but its all about him i feel like im living his life nt my own im just sat waiting for his decision all the time n im fed up how do i solve this matter i love him t bits n really want him to change am i asking too much t be a family and put ourselfs first n b happy.....am i jus fooling myself cos hes nt guna change???